Having a boyfriend or girlfriend for the first time is really exciting. But it can be scary and cause you worries, too. It’s normal to be a bit worried or anxious about your future with this person. It’s part of life to take a chance and hope for good things. However, you shouldn’t let a relationship affect your safety or happiness. You are going to learn a lot of new stuff about the other person. It can worry you or make you feel odd, causing emotions you haven’t really had before. There’s a few big things you may worry about:
These are natural, normal worries. Make sure you talk about your worries together, so you know how each other feels. Open communication is one of the keys to a good relationship. You can always talk to others, too - like calling 1-855-201-2121
If you are asking this question, chances are that you are being pressured to have sex. You may feel love for your boyfriend or girlfriend. You may think that everyone around you is having sex. But you need to know that love and sex are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no one definition of love because the word "love" can mean many different things to many different people. Sex, on the other hand, is a biological event. Even though there are different kinds of sex, most sexual acts have certain things in common.
Lots of kids aren’t ready to have sex, but think that everyone else around them is. This is There are countless nonsexual ways to show someone you love them. You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them. Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone you really like, then anything can be fun.
There are also ways to feel physically close without having sex. These include everything from kissing and hugging to touching and petting each other. Just remember that if you're not careful these activities can lead to sex. Plan beforehand just how far you want to go, and what are your limits. It can be difficult to say "No" and mean it when things get hot and heavy.
Just remember, your body is yours alone and you should never let anyone pressure you to do anything against your will. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is pressuring you, then that’s a relationship that you don’t need!
Arguments are a normal part of any relationship between people. It becomes abusive when the argument turns violent (pushing, hitting, restraining, pulling hair, etc.) or when one person tries to force the other to do something, often sex. These kinds of arguments are not healthy. You have a right to non-abusive relationship.
Speak up if you’re being hit, physically hurt in any way, insulted really meanly or emotionally abused, or being pressured into things you don’t want to do. No one should do any of that to you, especially not your boyfriend/girlfriend. You can always talk to people at 1-855-201-2121 about anything that’s going on.
Relationships are all different from one another, so it’s hard to tell exactly when behavior crosses the line in each case. Here are some warning signs to look for in your boyfriend or girlfriend to see if things are moving towards abuse:
Breaking up is hard, especially if it wasn’t what you wanted. Getting dumped can be really upsetting. It takes time to get over it. It helps when you talk about it with a friend or parent. You can start understanding what happened and learn to move on little by little. If you can’t talk to anyone you know right now, call us at 1-855-201-2121 so we can help.